traits of a good boyfriend/girlfriend...

¤¤¤A good boyfriend knows how to listen. When words come out ofyour mouth, does he actually pay attention to what you say, or does his brain just process mumbling sounds while he stares at your chest? A good boyfriend is an active listener, meaning he asks questions and doesn't just sit there, waiting for his turn to speak. Showing you that he have a genuine interest in what you have to say means, among other things, that he respect your opinions and find you interesting; two things that will meet any woman's criteria. ¤¤¤He gives you space. Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. Part of that entails him of giving you the freedom to have a life separate from him without asking 20 questions or having jealous fits, and knowing that you're not taking his trust for granted. Keep things in perspective; would you like a boyfriend who kept tabs on every move you made? Probably not, and the same goes for him. And always look for a silver lining; in this case, you'll have time to hang out with your buddies, and have something to talk to him about the next time you see him.

¤¤¤He respects you (and your family). It's important that heavoids letting his personality get the best of you, so if his mentality is stuck in the '50s, he must adjust to changing times. He must understand that he's an equal part of the relationship, so he must appreciate your company. Likewise, he must try to embrace or get close with your family early on. In addition to scoring precious points, being kind and courteous toward your parents is a good way to show that he's serious about the relationship. This includes,but is not limited to, bringing your parents thoughtful little gifts every so often, and planning activities that includes you and your whole family, like a picnic. Of course, I'm assuming that he already survived that dreadful first meeting.

¤¤¤He tries to improve himself. Demonstrating what a positiveeffect you had on him is a fantastic way of gaining leverage. Whether his getting himself back into shape, improving his vocabulary, or forgetting about the television long enough to shop with you, it doesn't matter. Improving himself is a great way of letting you know that deserves the best, and you'll be flattered that you were the inspiration behind his desire to aim higher.

¤¤¤You challenge him to be better. Likewise; his role in your life should be just as beneficial. He should inspire you to make changes that reflect the positive effect you've had on him. If, for example, you see him letting a great talent go to waste, encourage him; maybe that's all he needs. Don't be afraid to push him to pursue a career you know he'd be good at. The fact that you care that much about his well-being will make him want to keep you around longer.

¤¤¤You make him feel handsome. Reminding him how handsome he is comes with making him feel good, and makes you a poster girlfriend. Best of all: simplicity and honesty are all you need. Buy him a card that expresses your appreciation, compliment him at odd times, and if you feel that he's the most attractive creature you've ever laid eyes on, be sure to let him know. Men want to look good for their woman, and proving to him that you only have eyes for him will be a validation of that.¤¤¤You're not whipped. He may feel more empowered by it in the beginning, but in the long run, no man wants a passive, submissive woman who completely compromises his personality to make you happy. Retain your personality, stand by your opinions, and don't give in too easily. Show him that you are strong, confident, and have a spine.